Feel like something is missing in your life? Feel empty? Unable to feel other people's feelings? We will explore these issues on this page. I am George Hartwell M.Sc. a registered psychotherapist and Christian counsellor with 40 years experience.
Question: Why do I always feel like a part of me is missing? I am in depression. (People experience feeling empty, remaining immature, isolated from people, a glass wall between them and others.)
What is missing – or in any event appears to be missing, is your I , because it is covered up with, and hidden by, what contemporary people call and in fact is something called personality.
There is more to us than our personality. Our authentic self - our ‘I’ - is often buried under the demands to be our personality. The personality may be the ‘self’ that Jesus said needed to die to.
When self dies, it may feel like a ‘nervous breakdown.’ However we can have a positive breakdown in that our authentic ‘I’ can emerge.
In most cases, in the best cases it can emerge but then there are those for whom the authentic ‘I’ is missing. This may be what you feel when you say that you feel like a part of you is missing. Others may just say, ‘I feel like something is missing in my life.’
If the authentic you is really missing in action. Here are some of the ways that will feel true if your human spirit is under-functioning:
- You will feel a glass wall between you and others, a separation even when people are with you.
- You will have trouble developing authentic love relationship and maintaining them. They are hard to maintain.
- You may have trouble experiencing or sustaining the experience of joy or love - the transcendent feelings of the God realm that occur when you are in the flow of life from Source.
- You may have trouble experiencing or sustaining the experience of closeness or communion with God - the experience of God’s presence. You may have the sense of God's presence in the midst of a glorious worship service only to lose it when it is over.
- You may have trouble tapping into intuition, creativity, and inspiration which are the outcome of being connected to the source of divine inspiration and creativity.
- You may feel like an orphan in terms of your bonding with people. You find you can walk away from a love relationship without much difficulty.
- You may have difficulty in social relationships and may avoid trying to get deep, close or intimate with others.
- You miss the feeling of being loved. That feeling may be present at times with large feeling of its absence in between.
- Your authentic inner self - your soul or spirit - may not be accessible and, in terms of your life, it is not functioning. That may why you feel something is missing. Your inner being is lost, hiding, or captive as if in an inner prison.
Out Sources:
The Bible says that the human spirit is the very breath of Almighty God and was breathed into man at the beginning of God’s creation: “Then the LORD God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being” (Genesis 2:7). More about this article on the human spirit and the breath of God here.
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Why do people with borderline personality disorder feel empty
(People also may feel like a part of then is missing or isolated from people like there is a glass wall between them and others. These feelings may present some times and absent at other times. They may triggered by painful events.)
What causes the feeling of emptiness in Borderline Personality Disorder? It involves the core of the person which is the seat of our identity and the source of our connection with others.
However, not everyone has a strong spirit, a grown up spirit, an emotionally mature core. That is because not everyone has enjoyed healthy love relationships with mother, father , brother and sister etc. That capacity to give and receive love was not brought to life by lack of close bonding in the first year or so of live.
Lacking this capacity to connect leaves one very lonely. It feels like something is missing in your life. There is. The most important part of you is missing. At least it is essentially missing given that it is weak, isolated from others and unable to reach out.
Lacking love, and nurture and unable to connect well with others is related to the feeling of emptiness. That refers to what is missing at the core of your life if you are BPD.
A love relationship in adulthood may help strengthen you spirit. Praying for God's love to nurture you sprit done every day will gradually build up your spirit and make a difference in your life.
Written by George Hartwell M.Sc. a Christian counsellor and registered psychotherapist with a masters in clinical psychology and 40 years experience.
Sessions with George bring people to healing experiences in a loving safe environment. His reliable and innovative methods provide a compassionate focus on people's feelings, a wise understanding of their issues and psychological and faith-based solutions for change.
Phone (416) 939-0544 to set uo an initial session/consult. Phone, Zoom, FaceTime only.
My fee schedule is $150 per hour. Payment is by bank transfer or PayPal transfer.
There is a money-back guarantee. If, in the first session, you decide this is not a good fit for you, we will stop the session and cancel any payment due. I want this to work for you and for me.
(People also may feel like a part of then is missing or isolated from people like there is a glass wall between them and others. These feelings may present some times and absent at other times. They may triggered by painful events.)
What causes the feeling of emptiness in Borderline Personality Disorder? It involves the core of the person which is the seat of our identity and the source of our connection with others.
However, not everyone has a strong spirit, a grown up spirit, an emotionally mature core. That is because not everyone has enjoyed healthy love relationships with mother, father , brother and sister etc. That capacity to give and receive love was not brought to life by lack of close bonding in the first year or so of live.
Lacking this capacity to connect leaves one very lonely. It feels like something is missing in your life. There is. The most important part of you is missing. At least it is essentially missing given that it is weak, isolated from others and unable to reach out.
Lacking love, and nurture and unable to connect well with others is related to the feeling of emptiness. That refers to what is missing at the core of your life if you are BPD.
A love relationship in adulthood may help strengthen you spirit. Praying for God's love to nurture you sprit done every day will gradually build up your spirit and make a difference in your life.
Written by George Hartwell M.Sc. a Christian counsellor and registered psychotherapist with a masters in clinical psychology and 40 years experience.
Sessions with George bring people to healing experiences in a loving safe environment. His reliable and innovative methods provide a compassionate focus on people's feelings, a wise understanding of their issues and psychological and faith-based solutions for change.
Phone (416) 939-0544 to set uo an initial session/consult. Phone, Zoom, FaceTime only.
My fee schedule is $150 per hour. Payment is by bank transfer or PayPal transfer.
There is a money-back guarantee. If, in the first session, you decide this is not a good fit for you, we will stop the session and cancel any payment due. I want this to work for you and for me.