Do you feel like something is missing in your marriage, even though you're not sure why? Is your partner extremely private and avoidant when it comes to personal sharing and emotional openness? Do they consistently avoid intimacy by refusing to make eye contact or sit close to you, or by failing to share their thoughts or listen to yours?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, your partner may be displaying signs of an Avoidant Personality Disorder. This can make it difficult to build true intimacy and connection in your marriage, leaving you feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled.
Some other signs that may indicate an Avoidant Personality include avoiding close relationships, struggling with conflict resolution, lacking empathy, and avoiding taking risks in matters of love and personal communication. Those with an Avoidant Personality may also have difficulty acknowledging others' feelings, avoiding clear requests, and lacking depth in conversation.
It's important to remember that everyone is unique, and I can provide a professional consulation to help you understand the marriage relationship and if the pattern of Avoidant Personality Disorder is present. As a counselor, I am empathic and understanding of the challenges that come with loving someone with an Avoidant Personality Disorder. Together, we can work towards building a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
Phone (416) 939-0544 for George Hartwell M.Sc. Registered Psychotherapist
What I observe in the Avoidant Personality is:
1. A tendency to avoid close relationships and maintain social distance to avoid intimacy.
2. Difficulty dealing with conflict and a tendency to avoid or lie to avoid accountability.
3. A lack of empathy and difficulty comforting others, preferring to offer solutions instead.
4. A reluctance to step outside of one's comfort zone and avoid taking risks in various areas of life, particularly in matters of love and personal communication.
5. Refusing to give straight answers;
6. failing to acknowledge others' feelings, and
7. avoiding clear requests.
8. A lack of depth in conversation.
9. A preoccupation with appearance and maintaining a perfect image.
10. Difficulty with spontaneous hospitality and tending to overcompensate with planned events.
11. Avoiding risks in various areas of life and thus saying no to many opportunities.
It's important to note that everyone is unique and may display these characteristics to varying degrees, and a professional assessment is necessary to determine if an individual meets the criteria for an Avoidant Personality Disorder.
I can provide a professional consulation to help you understand the marriage relationship and if the pattern of Avoidant Personality Disorder is present.
PHone (416) 939-0544 for George Hartwell M.Sc. Registered Psychotherapist
To Hell with Playing it Safe (Song)
There's a parable about the talents we're given
The risk-takers thrive, while the fearful are driven
To bury their gifts, and hide from the light
They fear the unknown, and avoid the fight
Chorus: But the true wealth lies in love and growth
Not in hoarding and playing it safe, both
We must partner with God to become our best
And share our light, to help others find rest
Like the caterpillar who's meant to transform
e must shed our old selves, to weather the storm
We may face a breakdown, as we emerge anew
But it's worth it, to become what we're called to
Chorus: For the true wealth lies in love and growth
Not in hoarding and playing it safe, both
We must partner with God to become our best
And share our light, to help others find rest
Bridge: Let go of fear, and embrace the risk
on't cling to the past, or you'll never be whisked
nto a new life, where joy and peace abide
nd the light of the spirit is our guide
Chorus
Outro: So let us embrace the transformation
And use our talents for a greater nation
Let us love and grow, and find true peace
nd become all we were meant to be.
The risk-takers thrive, while the fearful are driven
To bury their gifts, and hide from the light
They fear the unknown, and avoid the fight
Chorus: But the true wealth lies in love and growth
Not in hoarding and playing it safe, both
We must partner with God to become our best
And share our light, to help others find rest
Like the caterpillar who's meant to transform
e must shed our old selves, to weather the storm
We may face a breakdown, as we emerge anew
But it's worth it, to become what we're called to
Chorus: For the true wealth lies in love and growth
Not in hoarding and playing it safe, both
We must partner with God to become our best
And share our light, to help others find rest
Bridge: Let go of fear, and embrace the risk
on't cling to the past, or you'll never be whisked
nto a new life, where joy and peace abide
nd the light of the spirit is our guide
Chorus
Outro: So let us embrace the transformation
And use our talents for a greater nation
Let us love and grow, and find true peace
nd become all we were meant to be.